A New Dominant

I have created this blog, basically, for two reasons. Reason One: To use as a way to work through my own thoughts about a very new part of my life. Reason Two: To get feedback from others that are into this strange, exciting, scary new world I find myself in.

You see, I found out about 4 months ago that my wife of 19 years is a submissive. Ok, after 19 years you would think that I would have known that, and I did, but we had never put an actual label on it before. It turns out that she has been reading quite a few blogs of other submissives and shared with me her desire to explore the possibility of our trying this lifestyle.

Now, I have been an avid porn fan for as long as I can remember, and have enjoyed many S&M & bondage films over the years. Only now have I started to examine the motivations behind those seemingly macho, woman bashing (literally & figuratively) scenes I have been masturbating to for so long. And there are a couple things that I figured out rather quickly.

First: Most of those movies are totally full of shit.
Second: It takes a lot more than a whip and a pair of handcuffs to take good care of a submissive.

Since my little girl (my wife) told me of her desire, I have since been reading the blogs myself and have discovered the immense subtleties and complexities of the unique relationship between the Dom and the sub. And that, truthfully, the role of the Dominant is as hard as, if not harder, than that of the submissive.

Hence the creation of my own blog. These relationships are explored in the blogs that my little girl and I have read almost exclusively from the view of the sub. While I have found some amazing information on the web created by Doms, I have found very little dialog from them (i.e. forums, decent chatrooms, blogs).

So, I will start to lay out my thoughts, feelings and problems with this lifestyle here and hope that other, more experienced, Doms will stumble upon it and maybe take a minute or two to respond to my posts.

Or, maybe, it will just sit here unread, and I will have to make due with the fact that writing all this down will help me in it’s own right.

Thanks for reading this…or not.

C.