Things Are Going To Change Around Here...
We finally have the ‘net up at home. Hallelujah! And with that, lg and I will be able to catch up with all the ‘goings on’ that we have been missing. We will also be able to post more frequently…and lg will have NO more excuses for not posting. I have told her that her blog is for her…and her alone. In her typical submissive fashion, she is worried that what she writes won’t please those who read it. I have told her that the only person she has to worry about is me…and I cannot think of anything she would write that I would be upset about…uhmm…let me rephrase that…I cannot think of anything she could write that I would delete. Some things she writes may, in fact, displease me…but that is one of the things that can be helpful to us. She needs to know that her blog is her own.
We are back from Virginia and my mother is doing very well. It was sketchy for awhile (and scary as Hell), but she is doing much better now. She should be home by Thursday. The trip took a lot out of us, and I have serious ear and sinus problems that make depressurization of the plane cabin excruciating for me, but the headaches are gradually subsiding.
We have had to deal with many changes in our life in the last months; changes that we had no control over. The changes I am referring to in the title of this post are changes that lg and I will be making by our own choice.
Such as:
1. We are going to attempt, once again, to quit smoking sometime in the very near future. The actual time we will start this has yet to be determined, but I would like us to be smoke-free by the time we go back up to Virginia in late November or early December.
2. The boy is on restriction indefinitely as of today. He brought home a report card with three ‘Fs’ on it. He is an extremely bright boy but lacks discipline and organizational skills. He also gets bored easily. We will be working everyday with him on these issues.
3. lg will be making a list of all the chores that need to be done on a weekly basis. We will be splitting them up between the three of us in order to give lg more time to deal with other issues (see #4 & #6). This will also help out with #2 as well in that the boy will have responsibilities at home and will receive an allowance instead of just having money forked over to him.
4. lg will do everything in her power to lose at least ten* pounds by the end of this year and the boy and I will do everything in our power to help her succeed.
5. We will be going out together more (i.e. to the beach, picnics, exercising, movies, etc.). We have gotten ourselves into a pattern of vegging out in front of the boob-tube and it is not a healthy way to live. I am not adding another listing for eating more healthy…lg has been on that kick (for the betterment of all three of us) for a few months now.
6. The sessions that lg and I have been engaging in have been very experimental and I have learned a lot about her from them. While she enjoys the occasional light spanking with my hand or flogger, the more severe butt beatings have not been enjoyable for her**. So, with that in mind, the more painful beatings (except for her ‘tittie torture’…I would never deprive lg [or myself] of that) will be held in reserve for actual punishment. My problem, in the past, has always been “What will I ever punish her for?”. There are things that I want her to explore and try harder to comply with having to do with less pain related subjects like cum swallowing, pussy stretching, water sports and other humiliation aspects of this lifestyle that she has problems with. We have established trust, now it is time for her to start truly acting like my submissive. When she has my collar on, talking back, saying ‘no’, making anything else a priority over me (this includes the boy…she must trust me to know when he needs her attention) will not be tolerated and will be punished accordingly. When I first started posting here, I posted that lg would refuse me sex on occasion and I wasn’t sure what to do about it. kalem, from Once Bitten, commented that I should “just take her!”. At the time I did not have the experience or lg’s trust enough to do this. I believe that I do now and will be much more diligent when it comes to issues like that. I have also ordered lg a new, all-leather, collar. She wears a red dog collar now, and this will be the collar she wears when I am NOT impressed with her behavior. She will have to earn the right to wear the ‘proper’ collar.
I have often written of my ability to ‘go with the flow’ when it comes to changes in our lives. I find it time now, though, to change my motto from ‘go with the flow’ to ‘direct the flow’. In order to direct lg’s life and help with the issues she struggles with, I must first set my own ‘house’ in order, as it were.
I will also be posting some pics soon. This turns both of us on to no end, knowing that someone is looking at lg (or me, for that matter) engaged in ‘compromising’ positions.
Anyway, it is great to be back and I look forward to interacting with everyone again.
As always,
Keep Living Well.
C.
We are back from Virginia and my mother is doing very well. It was sketchy for awhile (and scary as Hell), but she is doing much better now. She should be home by Thursday. The trip took a lot out of us, and I have serious ear and sinus problems that make depressurization of the plane cabin excruciating for me, but the headaches are gradually subsiding.
We have had to deal with many changes in our life in the last months; changes that we had no control over. The changes I am referring to in the title of this post are changes that lg and I will be making by our own choice.
Such as:
1. We are going to attempt, once again, to quit smoking sometime in the very near future. The actual time we will start this has yet to be determined, but I would like us to be smoke-free by the time we go back up to Virginia in late November or early December.
2. The boy is on restriction indefinitely as of today. He brought home a report card with three ‘Fs’ on it. He is an extremely bright boy but lacks discipline and organizational skills. He also gets bored easily. We will be working everyday with him on these issues.
3. lg will be making a list of all the chores that need to be done on a weekly basis. We will be splitting them up between the three of us in order to give lg more time to deal with other issues (see #4 & #6). This will also help out with #2 as well in that the boy will have responsibilities at home and will receive an allowance instead of just having money forked over to him.
4. lg will do everything in her power to lose at least ten* pounds by the end of this year and the boy and I will do everything in our power to help her succeed.
5. We will be going out together more (i.e. to the beach, picnics, exercising, movies, etc.). We have gotten ourselves into a pattern of vegging out in front of the boob-tube and it is not a healthy way to live. I am not adding another listing for eating more healthy…lg has been on that kick (for the betterment of all three of us) for a few months now.
6. The sessions that lg and I have been engaging in have been very experimental and I have learned a lot about her from them. While she enjoys the occasional light spanking with my hand or flogger, the more severe butt beatings have not been enjoyable for her**. So, with that in mind, the more painful beatings (except for her ‘tittie torture’…I would never deprive lg [or myself] of that) will be held in reserve for actual punishment. My problem, in the past, has always been “What will I ever punish her for?”. There are things that I want her to explore and try harder to comply with having to do with less pain related subjects like cum swallowing, pussy stretching, water sports and other humiliation aspects of this lifestyle that she has problems with. We have established trust, now it is time for her to start truly acting like my submissive. When she has my collar on, talking back, saying ‘no’, making anything else a priority over me (this includes the boy…she must trust me to know when he needs her attention) will not be tolerated and will be punished accordingly. When I first started posting here, I posted that lg would refuse me sex on occasion and I wasn’t sure what to do about it. kalem, from Once Bitten, commented that I should “just take her!”. At the time I did not have the experience or lg’s trust enough to do this. I believe that I do now and will be much more diligent when it comes to issues like that. I have also ordered lg a new, all-leather, collar. She wears a red dog collar now, and this will be the collar she wears when I am NOT impressed with her behavior. She will have to earn the right to wear the ‘proper’ collar.
I have often written of my ability to ‘go with the flow’ when it comes to changes in our lives. I find it time now, though, to change my motto from ‘go with the flow’ to ‘direct the flow’. In order to direct lg’s life and help with the issues she struggles with, I must first set my own ‘house’ in order, as it were.
I will also be posting some pics soon. This turns both of us on to no end, knowing that someone is looking at lg (or me, for that matter) engaged in ‘compromising’ positions.
Anyway, it is great to be back and I look forward to interacting with everyone again.
As always,
Keep Living Well.
C.
*The weight used to be twenty pounds but lg mentioned off-handedly (totally innocently, I'm sure) that Nov. & Dec. are the hardest months to lose weight do to the holidays and I hadn't thought of that (being one of those annoying people that can eat whatever he/she wants and never has to diet).
**After reading this post, she mentioned to me at work about the weight loss thing and that she had to talk to me later about #6. This got my mind rolling and I spent the rest of the day trying to figure out which part she didn't like and if there might be a 'serious' discussion later (alternate definition: argument). As it turned out, she once again surprised me. She was worried that she would only get serious spankings as punishment and didn't want to have to get in trouble on purpose in order to receive them.
I assured her that that wasn't the case and that I was proud of her for letting me know how she felt and pointed out what a good change it was for her to be able to accept her desire, and express that desire, for those type of spankings.
I assured her that that wasn't the case and that I was proud of her for letting me know how she felt and pointed out what a good change it was for her to be able to accept her desire, and express that desire, for those type of spankings.
I Love you, little girl. We are exactly where we should be.
C.
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4 Comments:
*clap clap clap* Yay for more pictures!!
Welcome back!
Glad you're back!!
BTW on the quitting smoking thing, Master had us both hypnotised and it was instantanious, as soon as we left the place we were 'non-smokers' and have been now for 2 years with incredibly few cravings. Definately the best £200 ever spent. Good luck and we look forward to reading you again.
Okay, because I'm a nosy and mouthy bitch (which goes along with being a slave somehow dammit!) AND because I quit smoking last year with Master's help I have to say something!
To lose weight AND quit smoking simply do not work together. Ever. Never. I can't stress that enough... (I gained almost 20! ARGGHH!) And I tried, I really did. I starved myself... and I still, over the course of the first few months, gained weight. Anyhoo.... add on top of dieting, quitting smoking, stepping up the BDSM and the kid issues and I want a cigarette just reading that..lol. I'm just saying!
Seriously though, go easy on yourselves.. thats a big plateful.
(and you should quit smoking, its absolutely the most freeing sensation in the world to not be tethered to that pack anymore. Yes, yes I am a preachy ex-smoker.)
*grins*
I am so happy to see you back!
Thanks for the advice. I agree with you...no point in setting lg up for failure. We are renegotiating...lol
C.
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